1. Don’t think you have to spend more money on a wedding than it would cost you for a
college education or a new house. Some of the most beautiful and meaningful ceremonies are
in someone’s back yard. It isn’t about how much money you spend but about the love
between you. Think about how you can avoid going into your marriage on the edge of bankruptcy.
2. Don’t be shy about speaking up for yourselves. This is your wedding. you get to choose what and who will be an intergral part of the ceremony and reception. Make sure dad’s speech isn’t too long and that the besy=t man’s speech is not all jokes and embarrassing stories about the groom.
3. Don’t Procrastinate.  If you want a disaster the day before and the day of the wedding, just put things off. The more organized you are and the better you have delegated those “last minute” things, the more you will be able to participate in and enjoy wedding day.

Plan well ahead is important

4. Don’t have unrealistic expectations about having everything perfect. Beautiful? Yes. Perfect is harder. Remember that this is a joyful celebration of love rather than an exercise in perfection. Most of us are not “practically perfect in every way” like Mary Poppins and we make mistakes. The mistake is generally the thing that gives you the fondest memories. I was photographing a  near perfect wedding and I was aware that everything had gone right. At about
that point, a bridesmaid fainted. She was quickly back on her feet and the ceremony proceeded, again, perfectly. There was no way this could be anticipated and prevented. They will talk about it with fond memories for years to come.
5. Don’t drink alcoholic beverages prior to the ceremony. There are enough challenges without having a best man or even the groom or the maid of honour or even the bride drunk at the ceremony. Yes, nerves are jangled and tension is high.

Above all take some time to smell the roses, relax and enjoy your day. It will all be over in the blink of and eye, so make sure you are relaxed to get maximum enjoyment from your day